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Post by happygirl on Nov 13, 2015 17:40:53 GMT 1
Has anybody on here,invited a lone person to their home for xmas day,and have they had any bad experiences,and things to avoid,diet apart,pls.  |
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Post by happygirl on Nov 13, 2015 18:33:04 GMT 1
Somebody that may have lost a partner or just someone less fortunate than one's self,sex immaterial,(and i don't mean after dinner !)
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Post by Ali on Nov 13, 2015 18:41:31 GMT 1
Millenium - 1999/2000 was spent with a lonely lady and she bored the pants off us all by crying all night... I did an open invite on AngloInfo in 2002 for New Years Eve - nobody came ......... (There were 20+ of us anyway so the party was cool) I'd still do it tho  but I would invite more than that one person so that he/she feels perhaps more comfortable, crikes it depends on who it is and what's up. I'll come !! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 13, 2015 20:32:03 GMT 1
The first two Xmas Days after I was widowed, I was lucky enough to have my stepdaughter here. She couldn't come for the next one and a friend invited me to theirs for Xmas lunch. I really couldn't do it. Looking back I was depressed and actually ended up with beans on toast. So just be aware that inviting someone who is in that same position or something similar may result in a refusal. It's not that they aren't appreciative, they just want to be on their own.....
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Post by happygirl on Nov 13, 2015 21:11:20 GMT 1
Keep that in mind Ali,thanks Pete,it certainly needs a lot of thought,easy to do bad for trying to do good.I know what you mean Ali,there's an elderly lady at the end of our road,she is so lonely,and every time she passes with her dog i speak to her,but she just stands crying,then we do,pretty awkward eh? !
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Post by BartyB on Nov 13, 2015 23:25:24 GMT 1
When we lived in London we usually had one or 2 of the local un-attached round for christmas lunch, some years were more fun than others.
After Sue died I spent chrimbo with friends of friends in a stranger's extended family group of 20 or so which was great, I think I might have felt I was intruding into a smaller group and/or might have become maudlin in a tighter family unit.
Make the offer but don't be offended if the "guest" accepts the offer and then doesn't turn up....... it's a really, really hard time of year.
Set time limits ...... so "Come for lunch at 1.00 but just so you know we take the kids to see their aunty at 4.30" .... it makes life easier for everyone.
Don't worry about diet, most people with dietary restrictions will just eat the stuff they can
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Post by happygirl on Nov 13, 2015 23:31:08 GMT 1
Thanks BartyB,it seems a mine field,best left alone unless it's a good friend in need,as the brats say,whatever,End of. !
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Post by meldrew on Nov 24, 2015 15:26:50 GMT 1
Personally I am trying to set up a movement which totally bans Christmas, having just returned from the Uk it seems that I am a couple of months late, they have been celebrating since August!!!!
We are off to South of France to mix with lots of lovely French people who have dinner at a proper time (10pm) on Christmas eve and then go back to work when they have recovered from hangover on the 26th.
By the way as an atheist this is nothing to do with religion, I just hate all the bloody hype!!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 24, 2015 16:24:16 GMT 1
We invited an elderly widow for a few Xmases until she died. We all loved every minute of the visits. When she died her family came up from London and went back never to be heard from again. We knew she was buried with her husband but after a year her name still wasn't on the gravestone so we enquired at Selby Abbey and it was confirmed that we could put her name on the stone. We did this and now she isn't totally forgotten. BE  |
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Post by bisdu on Nov 24, 2015 22:23:02 GMT 1
We invited an elderly widow for a few Xmases until she died. We all loved every minute of the visits. When she died her family came up from London and went back never to be heard from again. We knew she was buried with her husband but after a year her name still wasn't on the gravestone so we enquired at Selby Abbey and it was confirmed that we could put her name on the stone. We did this and now she isn't totally forgotten. BE What a kind thing to do |
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but I would invite more than that one person so that he/she feels perhaps more comfortable, crikes it depends on who it is and what's up. I'll come !! 
