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Post by Em on Nov 19, 2012 12:32:31 GMT 1
I am not sure adoption for same sex cpls is a good idea. I am not saying same sex cpls are not normal but as a child you learn lots from your parents and their relationship. You see the mistakes and the bits that work, often children repeat the same errors as their parents in relationship situations. Also a lot of behaviour is learnt from parents. How many of us have found ourselves repeating to our children lines our parents said to us with out thinking and then winced? ? I am not saying adoption by same sex parents will make a child gay but......
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Post by Elkay on Nov 19, 2012 13:19:34 GMT 1
I am not sure adoption for same sex cpls is a good idea. I am not saying adoption by same sex parents will make a child gay but...... But that would depend on whether you believe in 'nature' or 'nurture'. Personally I believe that it is in someone's nature that they are gay (usually from a very early age) and that someone born heterosexual would not be influenced by being brought up in a gay relationship. This, however, is just my opinion
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Post by Em on Nov 20, 2012 9:22:06 GMT 1
That is the problem because for me it is a mix of the 2. Nature some people are always going to be gay but some could be one or the other or bi, but brought up in a same sex couple I think would be gay after. Also the relationship between a man and a woman is not the same as between same sex couples, I have found their personalities very different and the way they react to situations in a relationship not the same at all.
You can never change some ones nature totally but certain elements can be brought to the surface, they can be taught to repress others to a certain extent that is the effect of nurturing. It is why an abused child is often abused by their partener in adult hood because for them it is normal......... and a child that has watched an adult being abused will often go one of two ways either do the same or be very submisive so not to cause any hurt at all.
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Post by Cheeky Chops on Nov 24, 2012 20:48:01 GMT 1
I have known many many children from man/woman relationships enter into the care of social services but funnily enough never from a gay couple. Being gay is now accepted as being genetic and there is lots of evidence for that so being brought up in a gay family would only produce a gay child if it were to happen anyway should a person enter a sham 'ordinary' marriage and let's face it, the stats on how many gay people there are in the population is laughable when you think of how many are married to someone of the opposite sex. I say let anyone marry anyone of whatever sexuality and wherever they care to be married. Just so long as no-one dies; who cares.
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Post by 4STIX on Nov 24, 2012 22:09:34 GMT 1
But what about cross-species marriages
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Post by Ali on Nov 25, 2012 17:58:21 GMT 1
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Post by <-Rinky-Dink-> on Nov 25, 2012 18:09:42 GMT 1
What about single parents bringing children up on their own ... or adopting children?
I know it is infinitely more desirable(spl) for a child to have a mother and a father, but in this day and age there are as many single parent families as conventional ones.
Is it difficult for single people i.e. not in any relationship to adopt children?
Just something that popped into my head as I read through all the replies in this thread......
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Post by Em on Nov 26, 2012 7:54:43 GMT 1
I think impossible as a single person to adopt, foster not sure. Another debate.....
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Post by mirabelle on Nov 26, 2012 14:31:39 GMT 1
Why should'nt gays get married?
Everyone is entitled to be miserable..............................
I think its relatively easy for singletons to adopt or foster children these days - as long as they are'nt membvers of UKIP of course. Too many kids spend their entire life in care or shuffled about various institutes so actually it ought to be easier to give a child a steady, loving family life.
My granddaughter came home from school last year and asked her Dad a very pertinent question that he really had no answer for apart from "Ask Mummy!"
"Why does so-and-so at school have two mummies and no daddy?"
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Post by Cheeky Chops on Nov 26, 2012 23:40:10 GMT 1
Single people are absolutely able to foster and adopt. I fostered for many years as a single person and on more than one occasion I was approached to adopt a couple of my charges. It is just a thought though that as tens of thousands of people have protested in France on these issues, there are millions more that haven't. So... most people think it is a good idea or really don't feel that strongly about it; at least not strongly enough to protest.
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